Use the links below to view the videos available on each topic: In an era of rampant narcissism, Dr. Ramanis third book, Dont You Know Who I Am? provides an insightful look into narcissistic traits and narcissistic personality disorder. Like that's not who they are. I'll say, "Slow down. That's just not going to happen. But by doing it quick, meeting friends quickly, or meeting family quickly, not all narcissistic folks do this, but it often does happen, they do have you on the hook, especially if you're very empathic. Like that's is not how it is. Something would happen and we would look at each other in the backseat of the car like ugh, you know, we would all roll our eyes like this the rest of the night. All in one very searchable, mobile-friendly place. [00:43:44] This episode is sponsored in part by Better Help. [00:52:04] Dr. Ramani Durvasula: But that whole, like having the tantrums in private, being really thin-skinned, "Oh, I've been so slighted," we often think of narcissism as the big, grandiose salesperson, attention-seeking, center of attention, right? [00:32:37] Dr. Ramani Durvasula: for the narcissistic folks to throw tantrums, and everyone else is going into therapy to deal with the fallout, while the narcissists just keep throwing tantrums. She is also a Visiting Professor at the University of Johannesburg. [00:15:31] Jordan Harbinger: Yeah. Please consider supporting those who support this show. Transactions: You name, email address, billing information and payment source. Such a fascinating conversation. I know what I don't like. You need the entitlement. What industry does Ramani Durvasula work in? You can also find the link in the episode notes. We don't have to deal with that ugly, yucky, unconscious stuff. [00:11:20] So that contagion is definitely there. People don't want to talk about it. Ramani Durvasula is a psychologist, professor of psychology at California State University, Los Angeles, and founder of LUNA Education, Training & Consulting, where she educates individuals and. California users of the Website are entitled to the following information pursuant to California Civil Code Section 1789.3: For any questions or complaints about the Company, our products, services or the Website, please contact us via e-mail at support@jordanharbinger.com, via written correspondence sent to Jordan Harbinger, 1821 S Bascom Ave #174 Campbell, CA 95008-2357 UNITED STATES. You have the right to control your personal data. There was a part of me where I was like, "Well, maybe I should just do that because it'll make dating easier because look at all my female friends." But in general, you're not going to, all of a sudden a person's not going to switch and have a different personality. [00:57:06] Dr. Ramani Durvasula: Because the narcissistic person called them a narcissist, right? They need everyone to recognize them and it's the fragile ego on display and they can't let these little things go. I mean, that makes sense. Dr. Ramani Durvasula is a licensed clinical psychologist in private practice in Santa Monica and Sherman Oaks, CA and Professor of Psychology at California State University, Los Angeles, where she was named Outstanding Professor in 2012. These are collections of our favorite episodes organized by topic that'll help new listeners get a taste of everything we do here on this show topics like persuasion and influence, disinformation and cyber warfare, China, North Korea, scams and conspiracy debunks, crime and cults, and more. But all the while they're getting more and more confused, more and more isolated, more and more helpless. But you know, they do have intact empathy and that sort of thing. I'm a Sacramento-based writer, English professor, track coach, C-5 incomplete quadriplegic, diehard 49ers fan, comic book geek, and lover of all things coffee. They're just. WEBSITE CHANGES. Nothing is ever enough, right? in Psychology from the University of Connecticut and her MA and Ph.D. degrees in Clinical Psychology at UCLA. [00:59:39] Dr. Ramani Durvasula: That said, what I don't like about it is the selling of the artificial narrative, because the narcissist is the masterful at selling the false self by putting on the mask and that mask actually does harm to other people. 186 following. Ramani Durvasula was born in Englewood, New Jersey, on December 30, 1965. address is r****[emailprotected], Ramani Durvasula's business email They're very sophisticated in their structure, and they're also very sophisticated in what they do. So for the longest time, until only relatively recently, is emotional abuse even being regarded not only for the agony it causes a person in real time, but for the real impact it's having on a person's physical health, central nervous system, and all of that. It is your responsibility to check regularly to determine whether the Terms of Use have been changed. You're like, "Oh my god, someone called the police. 2023 MedCircle, Inc. All rights reserved, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8DU5GY49VtU&, Meet Psychologist Dr. Ramani Durvasula (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8DU5GY49VtU&). [00:02:04] Thank you so much for joining me today. No additional charge. And many of the guests you hear on the show subscribe and contribute to the course. And even his own lawyers were like, "We don't really understand why our client is doing this. [00:24:29] Jen Harbinger: Listen to the real Catch Me If You Can on Pretend podcast, search for Pretend on Apple Podcast, Spotify, or wherever you're listening now. It's almost like he wants to just keep paying legal fees." It's also much more affordable than in-person therapy without sacrificing the quality of care. 5151 State University Drive, Csula - King Hall, Los Angeles. It's projecting your stuff on other people. If I talk like I'm all that, then I am all that, and that insecurity and the shame that comes from that can remain in the unconscious. It's a different kind of trauma. The dinner's going to be terrible because this person cut them off in the way and end of the parking lot. [This is part one of a two-part episode. Even if you're not married to or working with a narcissist, there's so much in here that you'll be able to apply to your own life and a lot of pink and red flags to look out for. Dismiss. And so until somebody really shows you what it is and teaches you narcissism bad, and this is what it is, that people will get stuck in those cycles. TO THE MAXIMUM EXTENT PERMITTED BY LAW, COMPANY EXPRESSLY DISCLAIMS ANY AND ALL WARRANTIES, EXPRESS OR IMPLIED, REGARDING THE WEBSITE, INCLUDING, BUT NOT LIMITED TO, ANY IMPLIED WARRANTIES OF MERCHANTABILITY, FITNESS FOR A PARTICULAR PURPOSE, OR NONINFRINGEMENT. Let me take you to this restaurant." [00:55:47] Dr. Ramani Durvasula: So they're a little bit thrown off when they. Connectingwith key decision-makers? Top 1% Attorney; Narcissist Negotiation Expert; Bestselling Author; Media Personality Ce bouton affiche le type de recherche actuellement slectionn. [00:35:15] Dr. Ramani Durvasula: Getting an accolade, getting an honor, getting an award, having a ton of money, you know, that sort of thing, that stuff goes a long way to helping prop up that fragile ego, that poorly developed sense of self. [00:51:20] Dr. Ramani Durvasula: because they just don't want to be abandoned. via phone at (310) 435-8010. So I think that consistency is one big piece. We process and access to the data we collect from you. A personality style is not contagious. [00:04:59] Dr. Ramani Durvasula: That was consistent behavior, sort of who the person is. We will communicate with you by email or by posting notices on the Website. Visit invesco.com for a prospectus with this information. So when a new narcissistic person rolls up, just like those train tracks, you're so used to loud noise out your window, that when there's a new loud noise, when there's a new person behaving like this, you don't say, "Stop, red light, toxic. All disputes will be resolved before a neutral arbitrator whose decision shall be final except for a limited right of appeal under the FAA. And so unless you know what you're dealing with, you're like, "Whoa, the coolest person in the room is paying attention to me.". It's not healthy, but I don't think it creates narcissism. However, we use certain third parties to assist us with processing your personal data including the following categories of recipients: These third parties have signed agreements with us in which they are prohibited from utilizing, sharing or retaining your personal data for any purpose other than that agreed upon by us and them within our business relationship. So their self-esteem is a pendulum that's just constantly, it's even worse than a pendulum, it's like chaos because it's completely responsive to what's happening around them. LIMITED LIABILITY. [00:06:28] And so this idea of, is it on the rise? They care about what other people think. If you enjoyed this session with Dr. Ramani Durvasula, let her know by clicking on the link below and sending her a quick shout out at Twitter: Click here to thank Dr. Ramani Durvasula at Twitter! It's also hypocrisy. Go back to filtering menu Zapier works with over 4,000 popular apps to automate almost any workflow imaginable. Ramani Durvasula works in the Research industry. So when youre in the orbit of someone who considers themselves the center of the universe, how do you ensure youre not drawn in by their gravity and disintegrated? Lessons/Courses/Products: Your name and email address. Some of these questions hold more weight than the others when it comes to diagnostic or pathological narcissism. If you disable this cookie, we will not be able to save your preferences. She received her B.S. Anyone who feels the need to preen and be pretentious and be a jerk. I think it's such an important topic. If they leave you, it's actually a lot easier. 4.0 Office cleanliness. Should Company seek to make such an amendment and we (in our sole discretion) consider the amendment to be material in nature, we shall clearly publish on the home page a notice that an amendment is being made. And comparing yourself to others, I feel like a lot of healthy people do that. Dr. Ramani Durvasula, a licensed clinical psychologist, will help you spot red flags and heal from the narcissist in your life. [00:22:30] Dr. Ramani Durvasula: I'd say most often sicker than the smoker spewing it out. [00:03:21] Jordan Harbinger: You know, I think that's probably true. Should we sell this site or the Company, your personal information will be transferred to the new owner. ", [00:42:34] Dr. Ramani Durvasula: They're not sort of rubbing their hands Dr. Transactions: 4 years for purposes of IRS tax compliance and audit purposes. Their self-esteem is constantly shaped by what's happening around them, which is why a narcissistic person may be in a great mood in the morning because they got a lot of likes on their picture. The College of Engineering, Computer Science, and Technology (ECST) at California State University, Los Angeles (Cal State LA), is ranked #8 by US News & World Report among public engineering schools granting BS and MS degrees. Visit the help section or contact us. [00:07:44] So all of those technological influences and media influences, I think it has taken what was always a lot of narcissists in the population and given them this huge platform. Most of us rely on technology for our jobs, and if you're like us, we use so many different apps like Slack, Google Drive, Trello, you name it. Dissociation refers to a sense of disconnect from yourself, your surroundings, and your external experiences. This idea of narcissism contagion, there's sort of a couple of ways that could play out. This button displays the currently selected search type. As a business, we collect personal data from you in a number of ways including: Opt-In To Email Lists or waiting lists: Your name and email address. And that has a whole set of downstream effects for a person physically and psychiatrically. So there's this sense of activation inside the person, [00:15:01] Dr. Ramani Durvasula: because of that ancient familiarity. Company imposes certain restrictions on your permissible use of the Site and the Service. [01:04:39] The reason why I did go undercover is from the outside you can deal with, you know, maybe some low-level members, you're never getting anywhere near the leadership. They lose control of the narrative. You can do it in your own space through phone or video. If you love true crime and are fascinated by con artists, this podcast is for you. You know, the ones that can do the real down dirty work. And I think that that's actually the more accurate telling of what narcissism is. [00:27:56] We're also in interesting times, Jordan, too because we know, for example, that narcissism is consistently and highly associated with aggression and violence. The police are going to get called. {{ userNotificationState.getAlertCount('bell') }}. That's something a more malignant, narcissistic person would do, where they literally use fear and menace and isolation and financial abuse to harm someone, but they may never lay hands on them. [01:02:28] Dr. Ramani Durvasula: Accusing someone of being like in a sexually inappropriate or having poor boundaries with other people when those poor boundaries and inappropriate behavior is your thing. Your support of our advertisers is absolutely crucial. Columbia Energy Partners LLC, Associate Consultant at Trexin Consulting [00:18:11] Jordan Harbinger: Just only, merely. at You know, as you would expect, there'd be a reaction. CLASS ACTION WAIVER. [00:04:24] Dr. Ramani Durvasula: melted down at someone. Company will post a notice on the Website any time these Terms of Use have been changed or otherwise updated. I mean, everything from road rage to domestic violence to stranger, all of it is associated with narcissism. And I will tell you because anyone who's physically abused is being emotionally abused, right? You know, some people might take an unkind attitude and say, "Well, it's a dog-eat-dog world. [00:56:56] Dr. Ramani Durvasula: So I'd say this is where self-reflection matters. I have some more questions about these dysregulations and people in relationships with narcissists later on as well. Show notes at jordanharbinger.com. Make an Appointment. Why am I not meeting their friends? These Conditions and documents referred to herein (as amended from time to time) contain the entire Agreement between you and us relating to the Website and any matter covered and supersedes all prior and contemporaneous agreements, representations, understandings or proposals between us. Here's an example of how we use Zapier. Jordan Harbinger LLC (the COMPANY) welcomes to you jordanharbinger.com (the WEBSITE or SERVICE) and any other websites operated by the Company. And that rose pedal spreading, initially, what happens is, again, they're not this difficult from the jump, and I'm going to use more of an adult sort of friendship, intimate relationship, kind of, [00:38:25] Dr. Ramani Durvasula: model. [3] She has also received a Master of Arts in Psychology and a Doctor of Philosophy in Clinical Psychology from the University of California, Los Angeles (UCLA) in 1997. Why are you constantly?" Dr. Ramani Durvasula Expand search. She is the go-to expert on narcissism and is at the forefront of burgeoning research in the narcissism and personality disorders field. [00:46:57] Dr. Ramani Durvasula: issues around attachment. They need other people to get supply. California is actually right now, the only state in the United States that formally recognizes coercive control in the family court statute. Your Right To Ask For Corrections, Erasure, And Export Of Your Data. It's not a healthy habit, but that happens a lot. You said even if they were just emotionally abused. And so those folks may not be as big in public. [00:56:36] Jordan Harbinger: Yeah. [01:00:33] So I think a lot of Instagram is just incredible immaturity. by Dr. Ramani Durvasula, Jane Jacobs, et al. This website uses cookies so that we can provide you with the best user experience possible. Currently there are no charges to the consumer for the use of the Website, other than the cost of any products, programs or services purchased through the Website, and an applicable fees associated with such purchases. Yeah, it wasn't hot, hot, hot in the beginning, but it also doesn't go low, low, low. So, yeah, you put up with more stuff because, well, you're never going to find that again, so you're valuing it. It's a primitive defense and what projection is designed to do is when sort of uncomfortable, unconscious parts of ourselves are getting activated, usually shame-inducing, we ping off. Clinical psychologist and licensed therapist Dr. Ramani Durvasula specializes in helping people identify the many warning signs of narcissistic relationships and abuse in their own lives. That's the insecurity. Registered Users can access all publicly available content on the Website, and upon registration for a newsletter/mailing list, product, service or program, may also gain access to exclusive Website content. While other new mothers are just like leaking milk and are crying. Dr. Ramani welcomes your suggestions. Now, 1:00 p.m., this guy's a mess." [00:23:31] Jordan Harbinger: You're listening to The Jordan Harbinger Show with our guest, Dr. Ramani. 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